.the fucking controversial issue.

OMGFG, i don't know what I'm going into.

ok, first of all, let me just clarify first that I came into blogging because of two person. KS (kiasu? no... Kenny Sia) and XX (Sabun cap XX? no... Xia Xue). That being said, I can surely say that they have made a great influence in my life and they are the ones who got me into blogging in the first place. Here, I would like to express my thanks to them.

Now, about the infamous issue. of course there are others but i didn't want to comment about that because it is a matter of fact at that time, her experience. but this, this is her OPINION.

which goes to show that she is wrong. but she did apologise. albeit arrogantly but still she did.

Now, let's us analyse her post from my point of view. Which I hope could make you people understand more why I feel and a lot of other people especially Peter, Kimberly or even Suanie feel that she is wrong.

now back to her infamous post.
The man stopped at the handicapped toilet instead of the normal male toilet, because well...
1) it is nearer afterall
2) maybe he shares my love for handicapped toilets because they are so freaking spacious and usually has your own mirror and wash basin! Coolness!
now, let us try to look at these few lines. Here we can see that she assumes and even goes to the extent to give two reasons why she feels that the 'man' here goes to the disabled toilet.

This shows that she is giving assumptions to things that she does not know and has no proof. You cannot assume what other people feel nor what other people think. Do not post your thoughts about other people easily. Like my cousin (jolene) usually bombards me... DO NOT THINK THAT YOU KNOW ME.

and then she describes a disabled toilet as...
"they are so freaking spacious and usually has your own mirror and wash basin! Coolness!"
again, this shows her lack of awareness on the facility and WHY IN THE BLUE HELL IT IS SPACIOUS IN THE FIRST PLACE. I thought that the mere big size of the wheelchair is already an indication? No? I mean mirror and wash basin? I thought every bathroom has that, what's so cool about that?

And she uses such terms to describe the toilet.. why? Because of one simple fact, she wants us to view the disabled toilet as somehow more superior to a normal toilet. This is to instill a thought that our toilets are not worthy of a disabled toilet... why? because normal toilets aren't FREAKING SPACIOUS? or don't they have a mirrors or wash basins?
He was really damn fucking suay coz he pulled open the toilet door, and, believe it or not, there was really a handicapped person inside.

Here. again, she indicates that the person is unlucky not because he encountered the person per se... but because there WAS really a disabled person inside? What is the presupposition here? The presupposition is that disabled people RARELY uses the toilet, and most of the time, they're not in there. So, it wouldn't be considered 'unlucky' if the 'man' didn't bump into the disabled guy.

What does it tell us? That we are given the green light to use the disabled toilet because they don't use it 90% of the time?

Does this apply to parking space too? Does the term "throw rubbish everywhere because we pay the city council for a reason" apply here too?

I don't know what the fuck is this person's problem, but he shouted at the innocent man who opened his door
Again, isn't the problem obvious? THE PROBLEM is that someone fucking barged into the toilet for the disabled although he is abled?

Again, if we dissect her sentence, she is indicating that the person has another problem, which has nothing to do with the situation. And he is just merely releasing his anger on another person who happened to pass by.

Such a sweeping statement.
You mean only handicapped people can use handicapped toilets?
Again, this I don't think I need to explain. If able bodied people are also allowed to use it.. CERTAINLY it wouldn't be labelled as A DISABLED TOILET? duh...

this whole sentence reeks of "politically incorrect"
I don't know if it is the same grumpy, crazy person who did these two scoldings, but if it is not, then it seems a little too much of a coincidence.
Consider the adjectives she used to describe the disabled person. Again, the disabled is disregarded but replaced with adjectives which has no relation to the issue at all.

And again, she makes a sweeping statement to show that these two might be the same person. What if it is? Is she trying to portray him as a grumpy and crazy person x2?
How come people have this notion that only the disabled can use facilities for the disabled?
Usually when we say notion, it refers to something that is wrong but thought to be correct. Again, she chose her words wisely.
our government spent millions of taxpayers' money to build so many facilities for the physically disabled, and only they are allowed to use it?
what about the billions of money spent to build facilities for the abled? again, a scornful and biased remark. and are you sure the word "MANY" is suitable to describe facilities for disabled? Does this word shows us that there is an overflow of facilities for disabled? Well I might've thought so.
Oh, excuse me for going down the slope instead of the stairs, will you? I shouldn't have. MRT lifts - don't use it, cannot use it. Use the escalator instead.
When you use the slope, you're not hindering those who are physically disabled but when you use the toilet, you ARE!
Sure, if I SEE that you are physically disabled, and you need to use the handicapped toilet, then yes, obviously I will let you use it and go use a normal toilet.
she bolded them. And notice her emphasis on SEE. That means if she doesn't see, she wouldn't give a flying dime about physically disabled people?
As far as I am concerned, you have a physical disability - and that is where you have a disadvantage. Your bladder is working fine isn't it? So you wait, just like normal people do, when there is a queue for the toilet. The rest of us queue up to use a toilet - I don't see why the disabled should be any different.
Again, she doesn't know the conditions of a physically disabled but she assumes that the person talking to the man is having a well fine and dandy bladder. remember that she didn't even meet or SEE the person who scolded the 'man'. And she goes on and writes such a sweeping statement. Yes, they will wait, but only if the disabled people is inside using it. not an abled person. What if I ask you to wait outside a public toilet and I take a dog inside to pee? Would it be the same? No? obviously.
What pisses me off more is when the society at large condones bad behavior when it comes from supposedly piteous people
Again, she presupposes that piteous people have bad behaviour. WTF?
When some person says I am being violent, I cry and say he is bullying a cripple, then everyone will automatically be on my side.
Are you sure? Then be crippled. Everyone would love you more, give their space to you. Give you seats and you'd even have your own mirror basin in your spacious toilet. Best of all, it's free.

And for her latest post which spurred me to write this post.
My reasoning for using the handicapped toilet (when there is no handicapped person around, of course), stemmed from the fact that I have been using handicapped toilets for all my life, AND I HAVE NEVER HARMED ANYONE BEFORE, LESS SEEN A HANDICAPPED PERSON AROUND.
So, it means I can park at the disabed parking lot, i can rob a bank if i don't kill or really hurt anyone, i can also drive like a maniac (until i hurt someone or i see that i hurt someone), maybe i should even start stealing because unless someone sees / catches me or gets hurt.. it is ok?

and to top it all off,

YOU HAVE BEEN USING HANDICAPPED TOILETS FOR ALL YOUR LIFE?

your house got no toilet ar? never went into a normal toilet ar? are you saying you're the lucky one who never barged into a disabled person using the diasbled toilet thus it is ALWAYS ok? From now until the day you die?
A RIGHT? Since when is a accessible, clean toilet ever a RIGHT, TO ANYONE? I also don't have rights to an always clean, available toilet, ok?
Who said all disabled toilets are clean? Well, she knows since she has been using it all her life. but here, Peter did not say anything about clean accessible toilet. He said a toilet for disabled people. The same as TOILET FOR ABLED PEOPLE. So, get your facts straight. Do not distort or contort sentences according to your favor. And what normal people do to their normal toilet is not a problem for the disabled. If you want clean toilet which is accessible for everyone, tell that to the people who has been vandalising it... (normal people?)
Excuse me, but in non-developed countries, I don't even think you have a toilet to go to, ok? It is clearly, non-arguably, a PRIVILEGE.
clothes are also a privilege then, and so is freedom of speech. cause in some other countries.. bla bla bla.... you know what i mean.
My blogders... If you like reading me, and you like the deals that Kimage and Localbrand has given to you, do email them, and tell them I have been serving them well as an ambassador. It is not fair that they think people just dislike me when that is not true. Let them know you guys still support me. We cannot let the detractors win.
We cannot let the detractors win?

Let us see what the online dictionary defines detract as...

  • To draw or take away; divert: They could detract little from so solid an argument.
  • Archaic To speak ill of; belittle.
  • via
I will never compromise my editorial integrity for commercial deals.
I thought you said this but here you are, asking people to write letters to explain that you were right, not wrong. that they still love you? why? It can only mean one thing. You want them to know. And by them knowing, they know that they're wrong and they'll support you back because heck, what if one or two complains, thousands still like you. YOU WANT THE ENDORSEMENT BACK?

Isn't that what you mean when you say "We cannot let the DETRACTORS win?".
How do you actually win back? You didn't ask them to support you by writing you support letters or to show their support in the comments, you wanted them to write to the COMPANY. And I believe that is how you intend to win... by getting it all back and more.

I rest my case.

sheesh.. no, it is not a direct assault against her.. maybe it is but I'm just trying to tell her that if we look at things from a different perspective, it looks real bad... and i don't even want to start analysing her other posts.

so, all in all, it is her blog, her responsibility and her voice. and what she did is "politically incorrect".

p/s: no, i did not write any letter or call anyone. And no, this is not a hate or scorn post against xiaxue. but just a clarification that what she wrote is wrong and this is why...

And i still read the pink poodle :P

Comments

minishorts said…
i'm sure as a student who reads english you get pretty pissed if a lecturer or any body starts dissected your stuff line by line and start to treat them as if they were literary texts. etc.

i say: its a blardy blog. its a blardy rant. take it so seriously FOR WHAT.

hai...

i'm sleepy. it's been a smashing birthday but the fun in blogging has just been sucked out.

sniff.
William said…
you can't break those sentences and hope to make justice.

read the whole, digest it and get the point.
Kamigoroshi said…
It's a toilet. What in the name of God possessed people to argue over a TOILET?! I also got toilet. Come argue over it laa. I need more attention my way. :P
J!MMY said…
maybe it was a bit harsh, sorry to XX.

but believe it or not, my lecturers do disect my text.

:O
jimmy said…
william : yes, at first i didn't disect it and i know she was ranting her thoughts but not all people read it for what it is. believe me, people can read between the lines. and when you do, you know why things influence us without being direct.

and i am disecting it hoping that she will know why many people are harmed and/or angered by what she said.

kamigoroshi : oklar, start posting about your toilet then i go there to argue about it lar.
Anonymous said…
I fail to grasp why the dissecting of XX post is necessary. Justification for some bloggers to flame her? No, these bloggers do not need YOUR interpretation to justify their distate for XX.

She had already apologized. Period. Right or wrong is not the issue here anymore because she apologized. What do you want more from her? Maybe you can start a constructive post and tell us what XX need to do to show her sincerity so you ppl will just rest case.
Wingz said…
wuah jimmy taikor u kena left right back front center ka ? shiok lar u ... kena flame i mau flame also tak dapat sial ... buden got peeples kam here toking bout "its her blog let her write what she wants" so ? this is your blog also right ? why knot let u write what u want leh ? i found your post very informative sial ... i learnt alotsa new words reading this post!

BRAVO!!! Simply Magnifito!
J!MMY said…
anon : she doesn't need to. i know she has repented. i am just merely pointing out that something is wrong and what is wrong. i am not flaming her calling her a "bitch" or dumb or anything like that.

and saying sorry doesn't make the issue go away. never. especially amog prolific people like politicians. yes, she is powerful cause she makes a difference and she did in mine. thus i just want to tell her that it is okay to keep on blogging... i love her posts, but phrase them carefully and try think from another perspective.

wingz : i kena left right front center also shiok ar?

and thanks wingz.. :)
mob1900 said…
Wow,
I wonder what would the sponsors think of XX representing them?

When you represent someone or company, you should be an inspiration to others, well at least to the majority, not deprieving handicappeds of facilities or cussing people on your blog.

Even if you're not representing any brands/companies, you're frontin' for your parents. It would reflect badly on them as well if XX kept 'playing' on these issues. as any locals would say, 'Kurang ajar' ler.
minishorts said…
agreed to the kurang ajar part, agree that wendy was wrong wrong wrong... and apologies never wipe the slate clean.

HOWEVER,

self-employing oneself to be a member of the blog patrol isn't right either.

come jimmy, i'm sure you're more grounded than this. why not let's start a campaign and let's start writing to the government to demand for more ramps and better facilities for the disabled. then let's published their feedback at the same time.

blogger power what. bolehland, right?
J!MMY said…
ok, mob, minishorts.

let's just leave it as it. dun wan to argue lar... tired.

i agree in some part that it is tiring watching the blogosphere fighting over such issues. i mean, IT IS GOD DAMN TIRING.. can or not?

i just want to have a fun halloween.

maybe deepavali and then raya!

p/s: maybe you all think that i'm trying to be righteous and all shit. but the fact of the matter is, i'm tired of people asking why should we argue over toilets? IT'S NOT THE FUCKING TOILET which we are arguing about. IT's THE ISSUE.

nvm.. I'm no saint either. I bitch and I rant and I'm no better than she is. We cannot judge someone we haven't met. And we cannot pass judgement on someone we haven't met. I am not passing my judgment on her.. just the issue.

...i would have wanted to start a campaign for organ donation.
Leen IS a MAFIA said…
Jimmy...you miss DA huh. Gawd. Dr. U created monsters this sem; feminists, critical analysts... lol